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The Girl You Almost Kissed: Tracing the Influences Behind the Music

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The Girl You Almost Kissed: Tracing the Influences Behind the Music

There’s a certain kind of ache that comes from listening to The Girl You Almost Kissed. Her music feels like a memory you never lived — a soft glow of longing wrapped in delicate melodies and lyrics that cut deep. But behind that dreamy haze lies a rich tapestry of artistic influence. I’ve spent hours unraveling the threads that shaped her sound, and what I found is more than just a list of favorite artists — it’s a constellation of voices that helped define her emotional language.

Early Indie Roots: The Bedroom Pop Scene

Before The Girl You Almost Kissed was a name on playlists, she was a teenager recording songs on a borrowed laptop, tucked away in her childhood bedroom. That DIY spirit was deeply shaped by the indie pop scene of the late 2010s, especially artists like Clairo and Jay Som, who pioneered a kind of intimate, lo-fi sound that felt personal and unfiltered. Her early EPs still carry that bedroom pop DNA — raw vocals, minimal production, and lyrics that read like diary entries.

You can hear the influence most clearly in her debut single “Summer Crush,” where the reverb-drenched vocals and soft guitar strums echo the early days of that indie wave. It wasn’t just about the sound — it was about the ethos. These artists taught her that vulnerability wasn’t a weakness, it was a strength.

Folk Storytelling: Phoebe Bridgers and Beyond

As her songwriting matured, she began leaning into a more narrative style — and few modern artists do storytelling like Phoebe Bridgers. The way she weaves melancholy and wit into a single line, the quiet intensity of her delivery — it all left a mark. The Girl You Almost Kissed has said in interviews that she used to fall asleep to Punisher, letting the imagery and cadence sink into her subconscious.

This influence is strongest in her more stripped-down tracks like “Empty Halls” and “Paper Hearts,” where every word feels chosen with care. It’s not just about the stories she tells, but how she tells them — with a kind of poetic restraint that says more in silence than others do in a full chorus.

The Dreamy Synth of Lorde

Somewhere between indie and pop lies Lorde — and her influence on The Girl You Almost Kissed is unmistakable. From the moody atmospheres to the way she builds emotion through subtle sonic shifts, you can hear Lorde’s fingerprints across several of her tracks. The haunting chorus of “Ghost Light” wouldn’t feel out of place on Melodrama, with its shimmering synths and emotionally charged crescendos.

But more than just musical similarities, it’s Lorde’s approach to self-expression that resonated. She gave The Girl You Almost Kissed permission to be dramatic, to be moody, to be fully herself without apology — and that confidence seeped into her songwriting.

Japanese City Pop and Retro Vibes

One of the more unexpected influences in her music comes from a genre far from her own roots: Japanese city pop. Artists like Mariya Takeuchi and Tatsuro Yamashita, with their smooth grooves and nostalgic tones, found their way into her late-night playlist and stayed there. You can hear it in the shimmering textures of “Tokyo Nights” and the laid-back rhythm of “Retrograde.”

It’s not just the sound — it’s the feeling. City pop carries a kind of wistful optimism, a sense of yearning wrapped in warm synths and smooth basslines. That emotional texture fits perfectly with her aesthetic, giving her music a timeless, almost cinematic quality.

Personal Relationships and Literary Influences

Of course, no artist is shaped purely by other musicians. The Girl You Almost Kissed has often cited poets like Ocean Vuong and Rupi Kaur as major influences on her lyricism. Their raw, confessional styles helped her find the courage to write about heartbreak and identity in a way that’s both poetic and deeply human.

Even more intimate are the real-life relationships that shaped her music. She’s said that some of her most personal songs were inspired by late-night conversations, missed chances, and the kind of love that lingers long after it’s gone. That emotional honesty is what connects all her influences — no matter the genre, she’s always chasing the same feeling.


If you’ve ever felt like you were on the edge of something beautiful but never quite reached it, The Girl You Almost Kissed might just be singing your story. Her influences are like breadcrumbs leading to the heart of her music — and now you can follow them even further.

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