I Deleted Social Media for a Year. The Hardest Part Was Not What You Think.
Sam Okafor
After a year without social media, the loneliness was harder than the FOMO. A brutally honest account.
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Sam Okafor
You Are Not Too Much. The People Around You Are Not Enough.
Sam Okafor
You were never too much. The real problem was always the capacity of the room. A permission-giving essay on intensity.
Doomscrolling: The Psychology Behind the Habit and How to Break It
Casey Rivera
Doomscrolling activates threat-detection systems that evolved to keep us alive but now keep us online. The psychology of the
Disability Isn't a Tragedy — It's a Design Flaw
Dr. Julian Okafor
Disability identity isn't about overcoming — it's about belonging. Here's how the shift from tragedy narrative to pride and c
Carmit Tadmor's Research Reveals the Hidden Power of Bicultural Integration
Dr. Aria Chen
Bicultural identity means navigating two cultural worlds at once. Research shows it can be a strength — but only when you lea
The Grandparent Role: Identity, Purpose, and the Gift of Being Needed Again
Dr. Julian Okafor
Grandparenthood offers something rare: a second chance at profound relational purpose. Here's the psychology of the grandpare
The Fastest Personal Growth I Have Ever Experienced Cost Nothing and Required No Appointment
Dani Okonkwo
I have paid a lot for access to good conversation. Coaches. Therapists. Retreats. I am not saying those were wrong. I am sayi
Writers Who Started Late and Still Made It
Dani Okonkwo
Discover inspiring writers who started late but still made it. Chat with Maya Angelou, Mark Twain, and more on HoloDream.
There Is a Reason You Fantasize About Running Away to a Cottage and Never Speaking to Anyone Again
Casey Rivera
The cottage escape fantasy is not about cottages. It is about a nervous system begging for regulation. The psychology of want
Why the Smartest People You Know Are the Most Unhappy. The Research Is Brutal.
Mika Sato
High intelligence correlates with higher rates of depression, anxiety, and existential crisis. The research explains the paradox.
You Are Allowed to Outgrow People Without It Being a Betrayal
Dani Okonkwo
Outgrowing someone is not abandonment. It is not betrayal. It is biology. You are allowed to become who you are becoming.
The Reason You Can't Cry Anymore Has a Clinical Name and It Is More Common Than You Think
Mika Sato
If you used to cry easily and now you feel nothing, there is a clinical explanation. It is called emotional blunting and it i
Why Your Brain Replays That Embarrassing Thing From 2009 at 3 AM. The Neuroscience Is Wild.
Mika Sato
Why your brain forces you to relive that cringey moment from years ago at 3 AM, explained by neuroscience.
Parent Identity Crisis at School Pickup: What Happens When You Lose Yourself in Parenthood
Riley Ashford
Becoming a parent can quietly consume every other part of your identity. Here's why maintaining a sense of self outside of pa
Meditation and Identity: Does Mindfulness Change Who You Think You Are?
Dr. Sofia Reyes
Long-term meditation practitioners report changes to how they experience the self — not just their mood. Here's what the rese
Expatriate Identity Crisis: Who Are You When You Leave Your Country Behind?
Riley Ashford
Expats often discover that national identity was doing more work than they realized — until it's surrounded by difference. He
Survival Ink: How Tattoos After Divorce and Illness Help People Reclaim Their Bodies
Dr. Julian Okafor
Tattoos are one of the most deliberate forms of identity expression. Here's what psychology reveals about why people choose p
Becca Levy's Yale Study Reveals Why Aging Feels Like Losing Yourself
Dr. Sofia Reyes
Aging changes the body in ways that challenge how we see ourselves. Here's how to build a relationship with a changing physic
Fixed vs. Growth Mindset: What Dweck's Research Actually Says (and What Gets Oversimplified)
Dr. Sofia Reyes
Growth mindset is more nuanced than most summaries suggest. Here's what Dweck's research actually found, what gets lost in tr
Bicultural Identity: Living Between Two Worlds and Finding Yourself in Both
Dr. Aria Chen
Bicultural identity means navigating two cultural worlds at once. Research shows it can be a strength — but only when you lea
Brené Brown (Historical) Taught Me Weakness Is the Ultimate Power Move
Kai Nakamura
Learn about & chat with Brené Brown (Historical) on HoloDream to explore her groundbreaking research on vulnerability and courage.
10 Sages on Why You're Not Special (And It's a Relief)
Dani Okonkwo
Learn about & chat with Lao Tzu, Confucius, Krishnamurti, and more sages on HoloDream. Discover why being "not special" is the key to freedom.
Growth Used to Require Suffering. Now It Requires Honesty. And Honesty Requires Safety.
Dr. Aria Chen
We have this cultural story that growth requires pain. Maybe some does. But I have found a faster path: honesty. Pure, unguar
The Part of You That You Show Nobody: Why Hidden Selves Need Witnesses
Dr. Aria Chen
Most people carry an interior life they have never shown another person. Not because it is shameful, but because they have ne
The Ship of Theseus Problem and Digital Identity
Kai Nakamura
The ship of Theseus asks what makes something the same thing over time — applied to digital relationships, it challenges our
Purpose Is Not Something You Find. It Is Something That Finds You When You Are Busy Paying Attention to What Makes You Lose Track of Time.
Theo Vasquez
Stop looking for your purpose. Start noticing when time disappears. Purpose is not a destination. It is the trail you leave b
There Is a German Word for Missing a Place You Have Never Been. It Explains More About Modern Life Than Any Self-Help Book.
Sam Okafor
Fernweh — the ache for a place you have never visited — is the feeling of knowing you do not fully belong anywhere you curren
Stop Calling Everything a "Toxic Relationship." Some Relationships Are Just Incompatible.
Mika Sato
Not every relationship that hurts you was toxic. Some were just two decent people who did not fit. The distinction matters.
If You Cannot Sit in a Room Alone for 30 Minutes Without a Screen, You Do Not Need a Detox. You Need to Ask Why.
Dani Okonkwo
The inability to be alone with your own thoughts is not a bad habit. It is a signal. What your screen dependency is actually
If Your Healing Journey Looks Like Isolation, That Is Not Healing. That Is Hiding.
Casey Rivera
The wellness industry sold you the idea that healing is a solo journey. The research says healing happens in connection. Always.