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How to Stop Being Jealous: 6 Evidence-Based Approaches That Work To stop being jealous, you treat jealousy as a signal to investigate, not a truth to obey. Jealousy is your attachment system flagging...
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How to Know If Someone Actually Cares About You: 7 Research-Backed Signs To know if someone actually cares about you, you watch for consistency over intensity, presence over promises, and curiosity ov...
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How to Feel Connected When You Are Alone: 7 Strategies That Actually Help To feel connected when you are alone, understand this first: connection is not the same as company. You can sit at a crowded d...
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How to Stop Caring What People Think: The Psychology and 5 Practices To stop caring what people think, you do not eliminate the concern, you change your relationship to it. Caring what others think is...
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Yes, it is normal to feel lonely in a relationship, and the research says about 1 in 3 people do. A 2018 AARP study found that 28 percent of married adults report feeling lonely, and a 2023 study in t...
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To forgive yourself, Kristin Neff's 2023 self-compassion research offers a 6-step framework: acknowledge the harm honestly, feel the pain without avoidance, separate the act from your identity, apply...
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Yes, it is normal not to have close friends as an adult, and the data on this will probably surprise you. The Survey Center on American Life's 2021 State of American Friendship report found that 17 pe...
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How to Have a Real Conversation With Someone Who Is Hurting To have a real conversation with someone who is hurting, you have to stop trying to fix them and start being willing to witness them. Most a...
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How to Heal From Childhood Emotional Neglect: A Research-Based Roadmap To heal from childhood emotional neglect, you have to first understand what it was. Jonice Webb, the psychologist whose book Runn...
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Yes, it is very normal to feel sad on your birthday, and most people never say so out loud. A 2022 YouGov poll found that 45 percent of Americans describe feeling sad, anxious, or disappointed on thei...
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Yes, crying without knowing why is completely normal, and it is far more common than you think. A 2022 study in the journal Emotion found that roughly 45 percent of adults report crying spells at leas...
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To manage anxiety without medication, evidence supports 9 approaches: cognitive behavioral therapy techniques, physical exercise, breathwork, cold exposure, sleep regulation, caffeine reduction, socia...
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How to Get Over Feeling Left Out: The Neuroscience and the Healing To get over feeling left out, you start by taking the pain seriously, because your brain already does. UCLA neuroscientist Naomi Eise...
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Yes, it is completely normal to dread phone calls, and the numbers on this are striking. A 2019 BankMyCell survey of over 1,200 millennials found that 76 percent actively avoid phone calls whenever po...
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To stop feeling empty inside, the research points to a specific path: name the emptiness, identify whether it stems from Childhood Emotional Neglect or depression, rebuild access to your own feelings,...
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Yes, it is not only normal to feel lonely when you have friends, it is one of the most common experiences in modern adult life. A 2024 Cigna report found that 58 percent of Americans score as lonely o...
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To stop people-pleasing, recognize it as the fawn response, a trauma-based survival strategy first named by Pete Walker in his work on complex PTSD. The 7 practical steps: name the fawn pattern, pause...
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To stop overthinking, researchers recommend 7 techniques: scheduled worry windows, cognitive defusion, physical movement, written externalization, sensory grounding, self-compassion practice, and prof...
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To know if you need therapy, consider whether your distress has lasted more than 2 weeks, disrupted work or relationships, involved persistent hopelessness, or resisted your usual coping strategies. A...
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Yes, feeling disconnected from your own life is more common than you think, and there is a clinical name for the most intense version of it: depersonalization. A 2023 paper in the Journal of Trauma an...
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How to Become Your Own Best Friend: 9 Practices Self-Compassion Research Supports To become your own best friend, you practice treating yourself the way you would treat a friend who was suffering. Thi...
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How to Stop Feeling Tired All the Time When Sleep Is Not the Problem To stop feeling tired all the time when sleep is not the problem, you have to look at a different kind of fatigue. After you have r...
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To make friends as an adult, the research is surprisingly specific: you need roughly 200 hours of shared time to move a stranger into close friendship, according to Jeffrey Hall's 2019 University of K...
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You've probably heard that loneliness is bad for you. Here's what bad actually means in numbers. Twenty-six percent higher premature mortality risk (Holt-Lunstad 2015, 70 studies, 3.4 million people)....
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