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Why Predictability Feels Like Company There is a moment, usually in the first days of a long stretch of isolation, when you realize you have started narrating your own day. You note when the mail arri...
Read article →How to Disagree With Someone You Love Without It Becoming a Fight Disagreeing with people you love should be easier than disagreeing with strangers. You know each other. There's trust. There's history...
Read article →How to End a Conversation Without Being Rude Ending a conversation is one of those social tasks that most people handle badly—either dragging it out well past its natural endpoint or cutting it off in...
Read article →How to Change Your Mind Publicly Without Losing Face There is a social norm in most professional and public contexts that changing your mind looks weak. Position-switching gets coded as inconsistency,...
Read article →How to Admit You Don't Know Something (And Why It Makes You Look Smarter) There is a particular kind of social pressure in professional environments, in conversations with people you want to impress,...
Read article →The Art of Sitting With Boredom in a World Designed to Prevent It There is almost no situation in modern life that requires you to be bored. Waiting room, checkout line, three minutes before a meeting...
Read article →How to Leave a Party When You Want to Leave (Without the Drama) At some point in most social gatherings, you're ready to go before the party is. The food is done, your social battery is low, you have...
Read article →How to Receive a Compliment Without Deflecting, Minimizing, or Hiding Most people are genuinely terrible at receiving compliments. Not in the sense that they're ungrateful—most people feel something w...
Read article →How to Accept Help: The Skill Nobody Teaches You There are people who ask for help easily and people who treat asking for help as a failure of some kind. Most people fall somewhere in the second categ...
Read article →Celebrating Your Own Wins: Why We're So Bad at It Something strange happens when people accomplish something significant. They feel the satisfaction briefly—sometimes very briefly—and then immediately...
Read article →The Art of Small Talk: Why It's Not Small and How to Actually Do It Small talk has a reputation problem. It's dismissed as shallow filler—the conversational equivalent of elevator music. People who ar...
Read article →On Being Too Much for a World That Is Not Enough Highly sensitive people—those who process sensory and emotional information more deeply and thoroughly than most—occupy a particular position in social...
Read article →How to Be Wrong Gracefully: The Most Underrated Social Skill Being wrong is ordinary. Everyone is wrong regularly—about facts, about predictions, about how they read a situation, about their assessmen...
Read article →When Your Best Is Never Quite Enough for You Perfectionism gets described as a productivity trait, a driver of excellence, a way of caring about outcomes. Less often described: the specific loneliness...
Read article →When You Are the Only One Like You in the Room There is a particular social experience that does not have a single clean name in everyday language. It is the experience of being in a group—professiona...
Read article →How to Have a Phone Conversation Like a Human Being Most people under forty have a low-grade dread of phone calls. Not the occasional anxiety of calling a stranger—the baseline discomfort that makes y...
Read article →The Busyness That Keeps You From Noticing How Alone You Are Chronic overwork and loneliness have a relationship that is not straightforward. It is not simply that working too much leaves insufficient...
Read article →The Invisible Cost of Spending Your Life Helping Others There is an assumption embedded in the culture around medicine that healers are sustained by the meaning of their work—that caring for the sick...
Read article →The Loneliness That Remains After Everything Else Is Fixed There is a type of loneliness that resists the standard interventions. You have relationships. They are, by most measures, good ones. You hav...
Read article →The Specific Silence That Comes With Being in Charge Leadership literature tends to describe the experience of being at the top of an organization in terms of responsibility, vision, and executive fun...
Read article →What Teaching Does to You Emotionally When Nobody Is Watching Teaching is treated publicly as a calling, a vocation, a form of service. What it rarely gets treated as—at least in the professional and...
Read article →The Loneliness of an Inner Life That Has No One to Share It With There is a kind of loneliness that does not show up cleanly in research on social isolation, and that does not get much attention in th...
Read article →The Four Horsemen: Gottman's Framework for Relationship Breakdown Most relationships do not end in a single catastrophic moment. They erode through patterns—specific ways of communicating that, when t...
Read article →The Currency of Connection: Why Small Moments Matter More Than Big Gestures Relationships are not held together by grand gestures, though grand gestures get most of the cultural attention. They are he...
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