How to Develop More Empathy
Empathy is treated in popular culture as something you either have or you do not, a personality trait distributed unequally like perfect pitch or double-jointedness. But this framing is not supported...
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The advice to "just say how you feel" sounds simple enough until you have tried it and watched the conversation go sideways anyway. The problem is rarely that you felt the wrong thing. The problem is...
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