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The Honest Reality of Dating as a Single Parent I want to start with the thing nobody says out loud: dating as a single parent is often quietly exhausting in a way that has nothing to do with the logi...
Read article →What to Do When You Have the Same Fight on Repeat You know exactly how it starts. One of you says something, or doesn't say something, and within minutes you are both occupying the same positions you...
Read article →A Practical Guide to Dating When You Are Chronically Ill I want to start with the most practical piece of advice, the one that sounds obvious but that almost everyone gets wrong: stop trying to date a...
Read article →How to Navigate Religion and Love in an Interfaith Relationship The moment that crystallized the challenge for one of my clients came at Christmas. She was Jewish, her partner was Catholic, and they h...
Read article →How to Have a Repair Conversation After a Big Fight The fight is over. Or it is technically over — no one is yelling anymore, and you have both retreated to separate rooms or separate silences. What c...
Read article →I did not drink much before I got sober, so I did not think sobriety would change my dating life that dramatically. I was wrong. Dating without alcohol turns out to be a fundamentally different experi...
Read article →When Walking Away from an Argument Is the Right Call Here is a counterintuitive position I hold with some confidence: one of the most underused relationship skills is knowing when to stop arguing. Not...
Read article →The Challenges Nobody Warns You About in Interracial Relationships When I tell people my partner and I are an interracial couple, the response is usually one of two things: enthusiastic support or pol...
Read article →What ADHD and Autism Actually Mean for Your Relationships Let me be direct about something that often gets lost in softer framings: neurodivergent people are not broken versions of neurotypical people...
Read article →What Dating Looks Like After a Major Weight Change Weight changes — significant ones, whether through loss, gain, pregnancy, illness, medication, or simply time — reorganize your relationship with you...
Read article →Most dating advice is essentially speed optimization — how to find the right person faster, filter more efficiently, move through the early stages without wasting time. Slow dating is a deliberate cou...
Read article →Money is where a lot of otherwise functional relationships quietly break down. Not because people fight about it — though that happens — but because financial limits are among the last to be establish...
Read article →There is a particular exhaustion that comes with having to justify every limit you set. Why you don't want to attend that event. Why you don't want to discuss that topic. Why you need to leave when yo...
Read article →The situationship has become such a common experience that it now has its own vocabulary, its own advice genre, and its own very specific kind of late-night misery. You are in something — real enough...
Read article →What Psychology Actually Says About Age Gap Relationships Spend enough time online and you will find strong opinions on either side of the age gap debate. Some insist that significant age differences...
Read article →Family is the category where most people's limit-setting skills fall completely apart. You can hold limits at work, with acquaintances, even with a partner — and then end up at a holiday dinner agreei...
Read article →When I first moved in with a partner, we had what felt like a complete picture of each other's limits — around space, time, affection, communication. What neither of us had thought about, not once, wa...
Read article →I grew up in a family where saying no to someone you loved was essentially treated as a form of cruelty. If someone needed something and you could give it, you gave it. Full stop. That belief was neve...
Read article →Most people can recognize an obvious boundary violation in a relationship: a partner who reads your messages without permission, a family member who shows up unannounced and uninvited, someone who sha...
Read article →Co-parenting with an ex, managing a shared business, caring for a mutual family member — these are situations where complete separation is not an option, and the usual post-breakup advice about distan...
Read article →The work-life boundary conversation tends to get framed as a discipline problem — as if people who cannot separate work from the rest of their lives simply lack willpower or organizational skill. But...
Read article →There is a specific kind of haunting that has nothing to do with death. It is the presence of someone who is no longer in your life but has not quite left your nervous system — a phantom ex. I have ha...
Read article →People talk about healing their attachment style the way they talk about losing weight before a wedding — with a hard deadline and a specific vision of the finish line. But attachment healing does not...
Read article →People confuse emotional boundaries and emotional walls constantly, and the confusion is understandable. Both involve limits. Both can look, from the outside, like the same behavior — someone declinin...
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