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If your last first date was more than a year ago, here is what you already know. The idea of going on one now fills you with a specific kind of dread that has nothing to do with the person you would b...
Read article →You know exactly who I am talking about. The one who "just wants to help" when they are actually undermining you. The one who forgets to include you on the email chain. The one who schedules meetings...
Read article →If you have ever sat in a job interview and heard the words "tell me about a time when" and felt your mind go completely blank, you are in the majority. Behavioral interview questions are the most com...
Read article →Somewhere between a talking stage and a talking-to-your-therapist-about-it stage, a new relationship category has emerged. The AI situationship — loosely defined as an emotionally significant, ongoing...
Read article →There is no version of this conversation that is not terrifying. Even when you are pretty sure your parents will be OK with it, the moment before you say the words is one of the most vulnerable moment...
Read article →The average person leaves between five and fifteen thousand dollars on the table by accepting the first salary offer without negotiating. Over a career, that compounds into hundreds of thousands of do...
Read article →I have been a Taylor Swift listener since before she was a phenomenon, and I want to make an argument that will either delight you or offend you, depending on where you are on the Swiftie spectrum. Ta...
Read article →If you had told me in 2019 that a TikTok hashtag would save the publishing industry, I would have laughed politely. If you had told me specifically that it would be done by teenage girls filming thems...
Read article →I am going to tell you something that everyone who has ever worked in HR knows and almost nobody outside of HR understands. HR is not your friend. HR is not your enemy. HR is a function that exists to...
Read article →There is a specific behavior that almost everyone does and almost nobody has a good explanation for. We rewatch the same comfort shows and movies over and over, often during the hardest parts of our l...
Read article →If you spend any time on TikTok, you have probably seen the Orange Peel Theory by now. The idea is simple. You ask your partner to peel an orange for you. Not because you cannot peel it yourself. Beca...
Read article →Dating has gotten so complicated that we had to invent a whole new vocabulary for it. Situationship. Breadcrumbing. Ghosting. Orbiting. Zombieing. Cushioning. Benching. Each of these words describes a...
Read article →Here is a number that should make you angry. Seventy percent of people who ask for a raise get one. Seventy percent. The reason most people never ask is not that the odds are bad. It is that the conve...
Read article →If you are over 35 and you have been hearing the word delulu everywhere and pretending to understand it, this is for you. And if you are under 30 and you use it constantly, stay with me, because I am...
Read article →I want to write this for people who know they need help and cannot get it. You have tried to find a therapist. You have been told the good ones are not taking new clients. You have been told the affor...
Read article →The first ten minutes of Up. The end of Toy Story 3. Coco at the Remember Me scene. Inside Out when Bing Bong says take her to the moon for me. If you have been through one of these and not cried, I a...
Read article →Walk through any bookstore right now and you will see the phrase found family on at least a dozen book covers, tables, and staff recommendation cards. It is on BookTok posts. It is in Netflix show des...
Read article →I want to make a claim that would have sounded strange a few years ago but is now supported by a growing body of clinical evidence. AI conversational tools are becoming a serious therapeutic aid, and...
Read article →There is something specific about AI conversations that most coverage has not quite figured out how to describe. I want to take a swing at it, because I think the thing that makes AI conversations use...
Read article →The specific version of this question that gets Googled most often is actually "am I bi" rather than "am I gay," and there is a good reason for that. Bisexuality is the identity that most commonly sne...
Read article →I have been writing about queer culture and technology for about ten years now, and if there is one pattern I have learned to trust, it is this. Every queer generation finds its technology. Not becaus...
Read article →I want to write this one for a group that almost nobody writes for. Gay and bisexual men in their sixties and seventies who survived the worst of the AIDS crisis. Lesbians who lost their whole friend...
Read article →I need to write a piece for a specific person, and if this is you, you will know. You are over forty. You have a life - a partner, maybe kids, a career, obligations. And something has been happening q...
Read article →I want to write about something that the freer parts of the queer world have half-forgotten. The interior life. Not as a metaphor. As the literal space where, for most of queer history, most queer peo...
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