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Gender dysphoria is one of the most misunderstood concepts in contemporary conversations about transgender identity — misunderstood both by people who use it as a gatekeeping mechanism and by people w...
Read article →Same-sex relationships are not just heterosexual relationships with different gender pairings. That sounds obvious when stated plainly, but much of the relationship advice that exists — in books, in t...
Read article →The coming out that happens before anyone else knows — the coming out to yourself — is in many ways the most consequential and the least discussed. It is the process by which a person moves from havin...
Read article →The minority stress model is one of the most useful frameworks for understanding why LGBTQ+ people experience mental health disparities at rates significantly higher than their non-LGBTQ+ peers. It pr...
Read article →Grief is not always recognized as grief. For LGBTQ+ people, some of the most significant losses they experience fall outside the social categories that trigger formal acknowledgment — no funeral is he...
Read article →Service members who come out in the military do so inside an institution built on hierarchy, cohesion, and mission — values that have historically been used to justify excluding LGBTQ+ people and that...
Read article →Internalized homophobia is what happens when the negative messages a culture broadcasts about LGBTQ+ people are absorbed by LGBTQ+ people themselves. It is not a character flaw or a sign of weakness....
Read article →Sports has always had LGBTQ+ athletes. The difference across time is how many of them could afford to say so publicly — and what happened when they did. The cultural terrain of athletic coming out has...
Read article →Finding a therapist who is not just tolerant of your LGBTQ+ identity but genuinely affirming of it can make the difference between therapy that helps and therapy that adds to the burden you already ca...
Read article →There is a version of coming out that gets very little attention in the popular story: the one that happens at forty, or fifty-five, or sixty-two. The second coming out — arriving at an LGBTQ+ identit...
Read article →Telling your children you are LGBTQ+ is a conversation shaped almost entirely by where they are developmentally, what language you use, and how much they sense from the emotional environment you bring...
Read article →Few conversations carry the weight of telling your spouse or partner that you are coming out. The relationship you have built together, the life you have constructed, the assumptions you both carried...
Read article →College is one of the few environments where the conditions for self-discovery align almost perfectly: distance from family, peer groups built around shared interests rather than shared geography, acc...
Read article →Faith and LGBTQ+ identity are not opposites. Millions of people live inside both simultaneously, with varying degrees of tension and varying degrees of peace. Coming out in a religious community is sh...
Read article →Coming out in a conservative family does not mean choosing between your identity and your family. It means navigating a much harder version of a hard thing — one that requires a longer view, more stra...
Read article →Coming out at work is one of the most calculated decisions an LGBTQ+ person makes. Unlike coming out to family or friends, the workplace carries its own particular stakes: professional reputation, fin...
Read article →Writing conferences make most writers anxious in ways they do not fully admit to themselves. The anxiety is understandable: you are going to a place specifically designated for the purpose of connecti...
Read article →Every November, a remarkable thing happens. Several hundred thousand people who have decided they are going to write a novel sit down at kitchen tables, in libraries, in coffee shops, and in offices a...
Read article →Literary magazines have always been less about the literature than their titles suggest and more about the particular gathering of people who produced them and the readers who found them. The magazine...
Read article →Something new has been built in the publishing landscape over the last fifteen years, and it does not yet have a settled name or a fully stable shape. "Indie publishing" is the working term, but it en...
Read article →The solo creative practice is a kind of mythology that creative culture maintains about itself. We imagine the writer in their room, the painter alone with the canvas, the composer hearing music that...
Read article →Gallery openings are frequently criticized as social performance with art as backdrop. The criticism is not entirely wrong. There are openings where the work is incidental to the networking, where the...
Read article →There is a specific kind of terror that belongs to the open mic. Not the terror of formal performance — the recital, the stage — but something more naked and domestic. You are in a bar, or a coffee sh...
Read article →A good mentor gives you something that no class can give and no book can give and no amount of solitary practice can give: the experience of being seen clearly by someone who has gone further along th...
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