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Most of my patients do not come to me and say they have internalized ageism. They come in saying they feel invisible, or irrelevant, or that they do not want to be a burden, or that their concerns are...
Read article →The conversation about aging tends to arrive in one of two flavors. There is the inspirational variety — the sixty-five-year-old who runs marathons, the seventy-eight-year-old who published a debut no...
Read article →There is a particular silence that falls over a family when the adult child realizes that they have quietly become the one keeping everything together. Not announced, not negotiated — just arrived at,...
Read article →I spent forty-one years defining myself by what I did. Not consciously, not deliberately, but in the way you define yourself by anything that is true all the time — it simply becomes the water you swi...
Read article →I used to think my ethics were mine. That I had arrived at my values through some combination of reason, experience, and honest reflection. It took me a long time to notice how much of what I believed...
Read article →The question arrives in different forms. Sometimes it is blunt: if there is no God, why does anything matter? Sometimes it is more private: I have stopped believing, and I feel fine intellectually, bu...
Read article →Meditation makes a specific promise, stated or implied, depending on who is teaching it: practice long enough, consistently enough, and you will see through the illusion of a fixed self. The ego will...
Read article →Two people who love each other, who have chosen each other from across difference, sit down to discuss a holiday tradition and find themselves, somehow, in a fight about the nature of respect. This is...
Read article →I came back from the experience and I did not know what to do with what I had seen. That is the sentence I have heard more times than I can count from people trying to describe psychedelic experiences...
Read article →I did not leave my faith in one dramatic moment. There was no thunderclap, no single sermon that broke something inside me, no crisis that split my life into before and after. It happened in installme...
Read article →I grew up eating food that my classmates thought was strange. The smell of my lunch apparently traveled. I have vivid memories of the particular social mathematics of the middle school cafeteria — the...
Read article →There is a conversation happening in millions of lives that has no clean institutional home — a reaching toward something larger than the self, toward meaning and mystery and connection, that does not...
Read article →The question comes at unexpected moments. On a train platform in a city you have lived in for three years. In the middle of a phone call with someone from home who says "when are you coming back" and...
Read article →The return is supposed to be a homecoming. That is how it is imagined, planned for, and discussed with people who have never done it. What it actually is tends to be more complicated — an encounter wi...
Read article →Religious trauma is real, it has a name, and it leaves marks that take time to understand. Whether you grew up in a high-control church, survived a faith community that shamed your body or your sexual...
Read article →There is a gap that lives inside many immigrant families, and I have spent years thinking about what it actually is. It is not simply a language barrier, though language is often where it first become...
Read article →The distinction between assimilation and integration gets flattened in most public conversations about immigration, multiculturalism, and belonging. The two words are used interchangeably, or the dist...
Read article →Loss does not arrive with instructions. It leaves a person standing in the rubble of what was, with no obvious map to what comes next, and the particular challenge of meaning-making after loss is that...
Read article →There is a word in Welsh — hiraeth — that describes a longing for something that may no longer exist, or may never have existed, or that cannot be returned to. It is not quite nostalgia and not quite...
Read article →Code-switching is the practice of shifting language, tone, mannerisms, and self-presentation to fit the cultural expectations of a given context. Most people who do it are not consciously aware of the...
Read article →An existential crisis does not announce itself with clarity. It tends to arrive as a kind of ambient disquiet — a persistent sense that the questions underneath your life have become louder than the a...
Read article →There is a particular kind of loneliness that arrives when you return home. Not the loneliness of being in a strange place — that one you were prepared for. This is the loneliness of feeling like a st...
Read article →Hair loss is the kind of grief that people are not supposed to take seriously. It is dismissed as vanity, trivialized with jokes, offered quick-fix shampoos, and met with the socially acceptable respo...
Read article →Skin has always been a canvas. Long before photography or social media, humans were pressing pigment into flesh to mark belonging, status, grief, devotion, and defiance. The question worth asking now...
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